Learn to get angry

In daily life, we often worry about angry family, poor communication between tantrums, being misunderstood is depressed ... ... Despite angry Chorus also hurt people hurt himself, and keep telling myself to be patient, but it does not work to suppress, burst of anger often make people around you feel terror and hurt.

In fact, anger is an evolution of emotions, each of us is born with, it contains powerful energy, help us to adapt to the environment, causing us to have the courage to defend their homeland and their loved ones to guard all the things we care about. Angry relationships can also help you, such as your friend offends you, you express anger appropriately, he may realize what he did wrong, to apologize or compensate for the damage caused, or at least will not commit. From a long-term perspective, it is good for maintaining relationships. So the anger is not necessarily a bad thing, the key is how you deal with it, in other words, how to properly angry.

First of all, be aware of your inner anger. Before the rage, there are a lot of little anger, take the time to become aware of your inner emotions. As alone do a minutes of take a deep breath, then closed Shang eyes, and anger "stay" a will, imagine himself is a on anger very curious of alien, down evaluation, and condemned and exclusion, with curiosity observation himself of body reaction, for example chest whether has unit gas to spewing and out, and heartbeat whether accelerated, and body muscle whether tight,; then again feel himself inside State: may except on others of anger, also has on himself of discontent, also has injured, and grievance, and fear,. Through awareness exercises, and anger will gradually clear up, rather than suppress deep inside.

Then, return to rational thinking. Explore the reason behind rage, proper ways to solve the problem. What ignited anger in the heart? (The other is intentionally or unintentionally? If you think too much? ) What is the appropriate solution? (For that matter, what is my purpose? Yelling or sulking helps directly solve problems? What is the real benefit of it? ) When you attempt to answer these questions, solution to the problem will pop up to the surface.

Finally, sincerely to express their ideas. Objective is to repair relations with each other, to find balance in the relationship, rather than simply in order to export to bring. In order to do that, in expressing their anger, and maintain a sincere attitude, told in a relatively objective and without criticism. For example, "dude, you say I did something wrong, I was embarrassed. "Instead of blaming each other," why do you all say ' me! Have you ever put me as your brother! "Relative to the latter, the former will make them focus attention on you to consider your feelings and emotions, to apologize, he will change the way you, your feeling for the more profound.