There is a letter from my mother: "my son was third this year, results have been very good, can remain in the top ten in the class. The boy's father and I divorced for many years, the child lives with me. Children's character had been more introverted, especially after he went to high school, more isolated, rarely communicate with me after coming back from school. Not long ago, I accidentally found hidden in the drawer of his women's Bras, panties and what not, and all I've ever used. I look very angry, he is not here, or I would have beat him up. Fortunately, he came home late that day, I had enough time to calm yourself down. Think, think is not easy, he came back and I said nothing. But since then, I have a concern: children do wrong, but things like this, how can I say it to him? So, I would like to ask this question. ”
Sexual maturity and the Oedipus complex interweaving
Puberty boy began physical development, Anterior pituitary will secrete growth hormone, promoting the development of secondary sexual characteristics, including the progressive maturation of the reproductive system. At this point, the teenagers ' sexual psychology developed into a bud began to realize that the differences between men and women, and longs for contact with the opposite sex, learn more about knowledge. The boy because of his parents ' divorce, inferiority complex, isolated and introverted character, from taking the initiative with the opposite sex to understand the opposite sex and compulsion to the opposite sex, curious, so by stealing his mother's Bra, underwear and other things to satisfy their inner desire, also want to explore the mysteries of. The other hand, the boy saves mother's underwear, he also has some "Oedipus". Because since childhood divorce, without his father's support and concern, and become mothers have come to rely on the psychological, resulting in "Oedipus". It can be said that "Oedipal" his psychosexual development deviation from occurring. In the presence of two reasons, he had a steal mother's underwear. Oedipus complex and inferior >>>
Single mothers should do
As a mother, will first have to understand the perspective of the child. Specifically, the mother can do it: (1) how to communicate with children, tell the child to adolescent sexual interest, eager to understand the mental state of knowledge is normal, sexual arousal, masturbation acts and things for the sex infatuation is understandable. However, you cannot make their day immersed in this kind of sexual fantasy, should spend more time in learning and on the struggle. (2) tell children, children of split families, it is not wrong, don't have to feel in front of their classmates could not lift his head. (2) the healthy growth of children without a mother's love, without a father. So encourage your child to more contact with the father. The other hand, allow children to develop relationships with relatives, friends, teachers, classmates and peers, which also helps to maintain their mental health development. If efforts, children continued to have abnormal behavior, but with a child psychiatrist to consult.
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